Pyschotherapy and mindfulness

Feeling Stuck?

Relational Life Therapy addresses behaviours in current relationships as well as unresolved issues or childhood trauma and also teaches new skills.

Unlocking your potential

Are you looking to have a fulfilling and creative life? Do any of the following issues prevent you from achieving it?

  • Do you feel disappointed and hopeless after having tried to improve one or several relationships?
  • Do you find yourself in endless fights with your loved ones without reaching any resolution?
  • Have you already tried a therapy where you don’t seem to move past the mutual blame phase?
  • Have you tried to put good suggestions into practice but failed?
  • Have you lost the connection you once felt with your partner and don’t know how to get it back?

Psychotherapy & Mindfulness

I have been a psychotherapist since 2005 with extensive experience both in-person and online. I know how difficult it is for many people to seek therapy, and I strive to create a relaxed environment where the person feels heard and supported. I adapt to the needs of the individual or couples who come to me and choose tools from a wide range of therapies that I believe best fit their needs to provide effective and lasting results.

Over the years, I have continued my education, training in Gestalt therapy, obtaining a Master’s degree in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), specializing in eating disorders, and becoming an expert in Mindfulness. Recently, I added training in DBT, IFS, developmental traumas, PTSD, and attachment theory. I am currently finishing a certification in the USA as a specialist in couples therapy (RLT, Relational Life Therapy).

I specialize in stress, anxiety, and depression. I also address couples’ issues and family relationships. I work on these in both individual therapy and couples therapy.


Estela Alonso Alvarez –


Relational Life Therapy


Mindfulness, Gestalt, EMDR, CBT, DBT, IFS


In Person, Or Hybrid


When I started with Estela, I had spent several years suffering a lot from a relationship that was not what I was looking for, without being able to leave it. At first, the sessions helped me better cope with the suffering I was experiencing at that time in my life. I left the sessions feeling more positive, with a clearer (objective) view of my situation and the options I had. Over time, I stopped feeling and acting like a victim and began to take responsibility. Little by little, we peeled back layers and worked on deeper issues. Thanks to the work I did with Estela, I learned to know and accept myself as I am, with my virtues and flaws. I also learned to seek answers within me, instead of outside as I had always done until then. Now that I have returned to my country (France), I see how much I have progressed and continue to use the tools I discovered and developed in therapy. I am at peace with myself (and others) like I never have been before in my life. Thank you very much, Estela.

Dominique M​


Two years ago I came to a point in my life where I felt like I was ‘going round in circles’. My relationships with men were failing, my relationship with my parents was difficult and I felt the constant dull ache of anxiety and tension in my stomach almost every day I woke up. Right from my first session with you I felt a relief. Through the sessions you have helped me understand and accept myself for who I am. You have walked the tightrope with me through some really tough times showing me compassion and sensitivity. You have never been judgemental or critical and your belief in me has been the catalyst for some amazing changes that I have seen (and others have seen) and felt in my attitude, my health and my relationships with others. You have helped me to find the strength within to face up to so many things in my life and you have helped me to value myself more. I’ve even discovered some hidden passions for alternative therapies through my sessions with you! I feel more alive and better equipped to deal with life’s highs and lows and for that I am eternally grateful to you. You have helped me to become a better person. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.

Emma, 36


Out of total despair, I found your contact info without even looking for it. My life was basically crumbling down in front of my eyes; I was tired of living and felt too hurt and weak to keep fighting. I have been through a series of events in my life (and specially for the past three years) that left me feeling the way I was, and by the time I got a hold of you, I wasn’t sure if my life was worth living any more. I remember the first time I contacted you, I told you I was tired of everything and ready to pull the plug, but I’m glad I didn’t and ended up finding the help I needed through you and our sessions. The changes I’ve experienced are something hard to describe, you basically helped me to pick up my broken pieces and put them back together, you taught me to look at things in a different way, how to manage and canalize my feelings and thoughts, and also helped me to gain the confidence I barely had. You have been patient and non-judgmental, and for that and all you’ve done I am and will be always thankful!



One year and a half after choosing to come to Spain to be with my partner, I found myself in a cycle of anxiety, anger and resentment which was threatening my relationship with myself and my partner. Through the process of therapy with Estela, I have been learning to observe my thoughts and feelings and stay connected to an inner peace and love despite the things that are happening in my environment and in my head and heart. As well, I have been reflecting on my communication and behaviour and have been experimenting with more effective, loving alternatives. Estela has been a compassionate yet challenging and insightful guide throughout my journey towards a more loving, calm and peaceful self



I first started having sessions with Estela a little over a year ago, thanks mainly to a friend who was brave enough to share with me her own personal and intimate experiences of therapy. I’d considered it for many years but I put it off and to the back of my mind and just tried to deal with things alone, the British way 😉 In truth, I was terrified that it might open a can of wriggling worms that I wouldn’t be able to deal with and secretly I felt deeply ashamed that I needed someone else’s help. But I was at a point in my life where I was ready to accept that I couldn’t go on papering over the cracks in an attempt to hide the overwhelming sadness that had welled up inside me. It was a struggle at first, to share my feelings and fears and my deepest hurt with a stranger, and to trust that she would not judge me or criticise me or tell me what I should do. But from the very start Estela took me seriously and accepted me. She listened to me with compassion and patience and treated me with a gentleness that I had never experienced before. In turn, she has given me the chance to realise and nurture these same qualities in myself, and bring them to my relationships with others, and more importantly with my self. Estela has been my guide and companion on my journey towards being a more loving person and helped me equip myself with the tools that I did not have to go it alone. I feel grateful that she came into my life when she did and grateful for all that I have learned and am still learning about myself.



How have my therapy sessions with Estela helped me? I feel different but I know that I am the same person. Some of my most painful emotions; isolation, loneliness, inadequacy have transformed into a more tender presence. I am now faced with new challenges of even deeper emotions but I know, due to my experience, that I will find a way through these too. The path of personal discovery can be paradoxically painful and delightful and ultimately takes great bravery and Estela has given me courage when I have been weak and direction when I have been strong. My therapy has given me new ways of looking at the world and the people closest and most important to me. Estela has provided me with insightful ways of addressing my problems and relationships with others. Also, she has presented me with different paths and options that are open to me but which I never knew existed. These additions, I believe, have made my life better. I have learnt that personal development is a process of which we are very little aware and it is only until we see clearly the changes that we realise how brave we have been and the progress we have made. This has taught me to have patience. My personal progress I think takes the form of a spiral, in a sense I go two steps forward and one step back. I have battled and struggled with very deep and controlling emotions but Estela has been forever patient and has helped me to have compassion for myself in such times of distress, for which I am forever grateful. Another important aspect of therapy has been discovering the patterns and patrons that rule my life. As such my life has never been mine but instead has belonged to the ghosts of my personal, family and cultural past. Estela has given me the courage to take back my own life. Estela has also made me aware of the more negative parts of my character that I needed to see in order to fully understand myself. We are not perfect but somehow by being in touch with our own imperfections makes us better people. Little by little, I have opened my heart more to the people around me which is now a very important part of my life. All of these changes would not have been possible without the very generous, patient and non-judgemental heart of Estela. Forever thank you.

Lisa, 31



Frequently Asked Questions

What is Relational Life Therapy and how is it applied in sessions?

Relational Life Therapy is based on the idea that relationships are fundamental to a person’s psychological well-being. As part of interpersonal therapies, in sessions, we examine how we have created images of ourselves and others through our early experiences and repetitive patterns. We will see how we end up repeating these patterns in our adult relationships that generate conflicts for us because they are not aligned with what we truly want. This type of psychotherapy helps us become aware of these patterns so that we can learn and apply different ways of interacting with others and with ourselves and change them.

What type of therapy will I receive?

I practice integrative therapy. This means that depending on each individual case, I will apply one technique or another. It all depends on the patient’s experiences, life events, and goals, as well as their previous learning with other therapies. All of this combined with my experience and instinct. The objective is to tailor the therapy to the needs of each person.

Can I work on a relationship even if my partner or family member doesn’t want to undergo therapy?

Yes, of course. Any work we do on ourselves will change the dynamics of the relationship. Key elements in relationships can also be worked on individually: self-esteem, healthy boundaries, experiencing and expressing emotions appropriately, improving communication, and managing conflicts, among others.

How can mindfulness help me in therapy?

There are three key components in mindfulness that assist in the therapy process:

  1. Directing intention to cultivate awareness of our internal processes.
  2. Directing attention to thoughts and sensations of the present moment to aid in our self-awareness.
  3. Maintaining an open, curious, and non-judgmental attitude towards anything that arises.

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